relationships present us with immense opportunity
Let’s face it, when our intimate relationships are suffering it’s hard to feel good in any area of our lives. Our primary relationships present us with immense opportunity for personal growth, healing, and full, satisfied lives. But getting to that point often requires some real effort. When I work with couples, we start by taking a holistic look at how your individual histories influence your relationship’s present dynamics and how those dynamics are playing out in everyday life. We then use those insights to address negative patterns and harness the potential for change. I am an experiential couples therapist. That means we work with your relationship’s current issues, in session, to enhance awareness, encourage empathy, and develop new communication skills. Ultimately, this translates into your ability to connect with your partner and heal your relationship in real life, on your own time.
Often, by the time a couple enters therapy, resentments have grown and each partner has learned to protect themselves in ways that counteract intimacy and happiness. When couples are in this space, the most important elements of therapy are safety and validation. I listen to each partner. And then, I help partners learn to listen to each other in different ways. When you feel heard and understood, both small and big things about your relationship start to change.
Surprisingly, my years of working in landscape design prepared me to be an effective couples counselor. By the time I began seeing couples as a therapist, I was already practiced at guiding partners through major decisions. I’m comfortable with intense conflict and helping couples navigate highly charged emotional issues. My approach is primarily influenced by Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy (RLT), Interpersonal Neurobiology, and Emotion Focused Couples Therapy (EFT). I streamline treatment based on your relationship’s specific history and issues.
Areas of Support for couples
I have experience counseling couples dealing with:
Lack of trust
Mental health issues
Loss of intimacy & connection