Approach

“You don’t think your way into a new kind of living. You live your way into a new kind of thinking.”

Henri Nouwen

Every person has the potential for robust emotional health and rich, fulfilling relationships. How do I help you get there? My approach is rooted in two primary orientations. Trained as a couples and family therapist, I help my clients understand how family of origin dynamics, attachment patterns, and past trauma currently affect your life and well being. Understanding how your past shows up in your present makes it easy to identify coping strategies and patterns of behavior that no longer serve you.

Emotions are wired in, adaptive processes that offer rich information about who
we are and what we want. Experiencing them in supported, mindful new ways is what creates and sustains lasting change.

Using experiential therapy, we resolve core issues and create pathways for healing and transformation. It’s important to understand the past but it’s even more important to seize the present. I’m an experiential, attachment based therapist. That means I help you grasp how unconscious, wired in responses and expectations are impacting your life and relationships. Unlike more traditional therapeutic models, our focus will be on your emotional processes in the present moment. Together, we’ll identify what’s getting in your way so you can access your inherent healing potential. This process is creative and takes many forms. What you’ll get is a new and powerful emotional tool box that allows you to flexibly respond to challenges, embody a new sense of freedom, and create the life you want. 

I work well with clients who like my direct style and use of humor. I am a warm and empathic therapist. I’m also a therapist who believes honesty and open communication are essential components of effective therapy. At the core of my approach is a commitment to forming a real and trusting relationship with every one of my clients.

 

Training

My post graduate training is rooted in two primary specialities: Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP) and Relational Life Therapy (RLT) created by Terry Real. I hold accreditation as a Relational Life Therapist through the Relational Life Institute. Both models emphasize the client-therapist relationship as primary change agent, the inherent human potential for healing, and are backed by modern neuroscience. 

As part of my ongoing commitment to professional growth, I participate in ongoing supervision with Stephen Keeley, LPC and Ginger Sullivan, LPC who is a Certified Relational Life Coach. 

 
 
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Which type of clients typically like working with me?

  • People who want to have healthier, more connected relationships with partners, children, friends, and family

  • Couples who want to change negative patterns and transform their relationships

  • Individuals who want to explore their family of origin dynamics and how they shape personality and behavior

  • Those seeking to better understand their anxiety

  • People who have a hard time setting boundaries or maintaining healthy friendships

  • Creative professionals who want to identify obstacles and harness potential

  • People who are ready to explore harmful behaviors and stuck emotional patterns

  • Individuals who desire a deeper spiritual connection with themselves and the world

  • Misfits, rebels, and innovators who seek a welcoming space to dive deep into meaning and identity